An all-too-common airline pet peeve had one passenger nearly freaking out.

The passenger sought help on how to deal with a youngster who was constantly kicking their seat after multiple failed attempts to get the child’s father to intervene, according to their Reddit post.

The redditor, known as Silverlace22 on the forum, reported the event in a live transmission from the plane on Sunday, August 11. “I am currently on a flight from Hawaii to Las Vegas, and a child behind me keeps kicking my seat,” they said. They claimed that the kid’s “oblivious father is sitting next to him and does nothing.”

“I don’t want to cause a scene, but 4 hours into this, and I am ready to go full tilt, Karen,” the other individual said. “I’ve said OUCH several times, but to no avail. Why do they only place half an inch of foam between your lower back and someone’s foot?”

“Thanks for letting me vent 😖,” they closed their message.

Fellow Redditors went to the comments section to weigh in on what they thought was the best course of action. One school of thought held that the frustrated passenger should have notified a flight attendant.

“Press the flight attendant button and use your best adult words to tell them what you said here,” one person commented, immediately becoming the most popular remark.

Others agreed. “Having a [flight attendant] mediator is really the only option. Among other issues, the original poster (OP) failed to manage the child, drawing the parent’s attention.

However, several commenters believed that notifying the child’s father was the best approach to handling the matter. “I’m not sure why they don’t just turn around and talk to the parent instead of being passive-aggressive and just saying ouch,” one individual commented.

“Stand up and turn around.” “Respectfully ask the child’s father to keep the child from kicking your seat,” another commented.

A third proposal came from community members: encourage the child to stop. “Tell the kid directly to stop kicking your seat,” one person recommended.

“You already spoke to dad—just firmly tell the kid directly,” another said. “Tell him that it’s not nice and that you’d prefer he didn’t do it. Or ask him (the kid): “Would you like someone to kick your seat?”

People recently spoke with Nicole Campoy Jackson, a travel expert, writer, and adviser from Fora Travel (who also frequently travels with her children), about how to manage a scenario like this.

“This is a tough one because parents are already on high alert and often feel defensive when flying with their kids,” she told the newspaper. “To turn around, already angry, and start hurling blame is going to help absolutely no one have a better flight,” she told the newspaper.

Jackson said the best way to handle the situation is to talk to the parent, and she offers suggestions.

“Try stating, ‘I realize you’ve had a lot on your plate, but your child is kicking my seat, which is unpleasant. Could you please speak with them about stopping?”

The travel expert also told PEOPLE that if a youngster is “incredibly disruptive” on an aircraft, such as running up and down the aisle or closing and opening a window shade, it is completely fine to summon a flight attendant for assistance.

“There are methods to defend our comforts and places without engaging in a conflict. If you’ve urged someone—parent or otherwise—to stop doing something two or three times and it still hasn’t stopped, it’s time to hit the call light and seek professional assistance,” she adds.